The first thing you should do is take on the “Talk to Fenris” quest. No matter what choices you make, Fenris will never move in with you. Flirt with him here, and he’ll visit you the next time you return home at night. If you’ve reached at least 50% friendship by now, you can take on the “Questioning Beliefs” quest. If not, don’t worry: this conversation should put you up to the 50% friendship point needed for the “Questioning Beliefs” quest.
This is an opportunity to flirt another couple of times, and even bypass the next step if you’re friendship score is high enough. After the quest is completed, go back to your estate and Fenris will be waiting for you. When the choice appears, choose “We can still find her.” After the battle, make sure to give Fenris free reign over how the mage will be dealt with. At the end of the quest you’ll face Hadriana.